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Red flags of Sociopaths

Suspect you may be dealing with a Sociopath?
Sociopaths are true masters of influencing and misleading. Very little of what they reveal about themselves, corresponds to the truth or the reality, but they are extremely adept to make everything they say sound believable, even if they simply invent it.

Why I deal with the subject? Because I have experienced people being deceived and even harmed by sociopaths, and because it upsets me that people can easily get under their destructive influence.

Very exaggerated self-esteem: They are so convinced of themselves and their skill to manipulate people that they even let get carried away to statements like: "I can have anyone I want."

Sociopaths want to dominate others and "win" at any price: They hate to lose a quarrel, and will defend their lies by every means, up to the logical absurdity.

Compares you to everyone else in their life: Ex-lovers, friends, family members, and your eventual replacement. When idealizing, they make you feel special by telling you how much better you are than these people. When devaluing, they use these comparisons to hurt you.

Parasitic lifestyle: They live at the expense of others. They sit down in a nest and serve as a parasite, which seeks its host.

Frequent deceiving and lying: Their lies serve to gain their own advantage, for example, to conceal a mistake or a prohibited action and thus escape criticism or punishment.

Your fear that any fight could be your last: Normal couples argue to resolve issues, but psychopaths make it clear that negative conversations will jeopardize the relationship, especially ones regarding their behavior. You apologize and forgive quickly, otherwise you know they'll lose interest in you.

Sociopaths never apologize: They are never wrong, they never feel guilty, they simply can not apologize. Even if they were proven to be wrong, they refuse an apology and go over to the attack instead.

Feeling cold, lack of empathy: A general lack of feelings towards people. This is expressed by coldness (rejection), contemptuousness, recklessness and lack of tact. Feelings of others or the rights of the well-being of other persons are disregarded. Other people are viewed as manipulatable objects. Psychopaths are often not ironic but very cynical and selfish. They recognize themselves as number 1. Emotionality is called weakness and they often see themselves as conscious "loners" (Cowgirl or Cowboy).

Insufficient behavioral control: This is expressed by simple irritability, anger, impatience, threat, aggression and verbal abuse. An inadequate control of anger and temperament leads to premature action or words without thinking about the impact to the receiver and it often leads to physical violence as well.

Focuses on your mistakes and ignores their own: If they're two hours or even one year late, do not forget that you were once five minutes late to your first date. If you point out their mistakes, they will always be quick to turn the conversation back on you.

Lack of realistic, long-term goals: This includes the inability or permanent failure to develop and execute long-term plans and goals, which often lead to a nomadic existence, which runs aimlessly without direction in life.

Indifferent sexual behavior (promiscuity): Sociopaths often got variety of short, superficial relationships, countless affairs and random choice of sexual partners. Sometimes, several relationships are maintained at the same time.

Impulsiveness: It manifests itself in a behavior which is unintentional and has a lack of consideration for prudent planning. There is the inability to resist temptations, frustrations and an urge. This is also connected with a lack of caution, to think about possible consequences from one's own actions. The behavior is therefore foolhardy, rash, unpredictable, erratic, reckless and usually little reflected.

Lack of human respect: You find yourself explaining the basic elements of human respect to a full-grown man/woman. Normal people understand the fundamental concepts of honesty and kindness. No adult should need to be told how they are making other people feel.

Sudden boredom: Suddenly and completely bored by you. Gives you the silent treatment and becomes very annoyed that you seem to be interested in continuing the passionate relationship that they created. Now you are an annoying task for them.

The ultimate hypocrite: They have extremely high expectations for fidelity, respect, and adoration. After the idealization phase, they will give none of this back to you. They will cheat, lie, insult, and degrade. But you are expected to remain perfect.

Treat others the way you want to be treated: You find yourself desperately trying to explain how they might feel if you were treating them this way, and you just get silence & emptiness.

An unusual amount of "crazy" people in their past. Any ex-partner, friend or relative who are not blinded by superficiality or even criticize the egoistic behavior are immediately enemies for the sociopath. They will be labeled as jealous, bipolar, bitch, obsessed, hacker, womenbeater, an alcoholic or some other nasty smear. They will talk about you the same way to their next target.

Expecting to read their thoughts. If they stop communication with you for few or more days, it is your fault for not knowing about their plans they never talked about. Especially plans, in which the partner should be involved in any case let become doubt on the actual existence. It always leaves a taste of a self-victimizing excuse.

Your feelings. After you have spent a period of time with a sociopath you will feel insane, exhausted, drained, shocked, and empty. You will tear apart your entire life: spending money, ending friendships, and searching for some sort of reason behind it all.

Identity hopping (coming soon)

Manipulation of family (coming soon)

Gaslighting (coming soon)

Excessive jealousy (coming soon)

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